| Anger can destroy your life. It can ruin | | | | stay calm and relaxed throughout the day. |
| your relationship with your spouse, your | | | | There are many relaxation techniques you can |
| children, your friends, and your co-workers. | | | | use to stay calm and have positive 'down |
| | | | time'. Some of the more popular activities |
| The problem is that every day things happen | | | | are yoga, deep breathing exercises, |
| to us that bring out our anger. So it's | | | | meditation, and so on. |
| critical that we learn to keep our temper | | | | |
| under control. We need to do this for | | | | 5. Laugh: |
| ourselves, and we need to do this so that our | | | | |
| children can learn from our example. | | | | Try to look at what is happening as if it |
| | | | were happening to someone else. Many times |
| Here are seven simple straight forward | | | | if you look at the difficult situations you |
| techniques you can use that will keep anger | | | | are experiencing as an outsider would, what |
| under control. | | | | is happening will seem quite ludicrous. You |
| | | | can infuse humor in difficult situations and |
| 1. Get away from the location: | | | | laugh at them rather than get offended or |
| | | | angry. |
| Walk away. When you are in a upsetting or | | | | |
| frustrating situation and you feel anger is | | | | 6. Judge favorably: |
| coming on, just walk away. Excuse | | | | |
| yourself, go to the bathroom, do what ever | | | | Most people who do things that anger you are |
| you can do to leave the situation. | | | | not doing them maliciously. Usually if the |
| Disengage. The great advantage of walking | | | | person knew he was doing something to bother |
| away is that even if you become angry, | | | | you, he wouldn't do it at all. The problem |
| nothing will happen. You are by yourself, so | | | | is that none of us weigh out how our actions |
| no one will know that you are upset. You | | | | effect others. What seems to you as a person |
| won't be able to say anything or do anything | | | | who is inconsiderate and uncaring is probably |
| that you are going to regret later. If you | | | | someone who is just unaware that what he is |
| want to control your anger and limit the | | | | doing is bothering you. Since in most cases |
| damage that it can do, walking away is a | | | | the person who is doing something to you |
| great first step. | | | | really means no offense, there is no reason |
| | | | for you to take offense. |
| 2. Diffuse your anger: | | | | |
| | | | You should view most actions that bother or |
| One of the best ways to diffuse your anger is | | | | offend you as an oversight rather than a |
| to get physical. That does not mean hit your | | | | direct attack. If you do that, you will |
| kids, which is one of the destructive ways | | | | almost always be correct. |
| some parents diffuse their anger. What I mean | | | | |
| is to engage in some form of vigorous | | | | 7. Be silent: |
| physical activity. Go for a walk, a run, | | | | |
| lift weights, or do something else physical | | | | Words said in anger can cause a great deal of |
| that will diffuse your emotions and get your | | | | harm. What you say may be something you |
| mind off the problem. This will help you | | | | truly feel or may be something that you are |
| cool down. It will also give you some of the | | | | just saying to hurt your attacker. Either |
| best work outs that you will ever have. | | | | way, it will usually be something that is not |
| | | | very palatable. Be careful of the words that |
| 3. Get regular exercise: | | | | come out of your mouth when you are angry. |
| | | | When you calm down you will probably have to |
| This is a corollary to what we just | | | | eat them. |
| mentioned. Strenuous exercise is a great | | | | |
| technique to manage your anger and increase | | | | Bonus Technique: Take a cosmic perspective: |
| you tolerance threshold. | | | | |
| | | | There are some very serious issues in the |
| Getting regular vigorous exercise has a lot | | | | world. Global warming, nuclear waste, |
| of advantages. You will feel younger and | | | | genocide, world hunger, etc. These are |
| healthier. You will look better. You will | | | | things that can have ramifications for |
| also be able to dissipate the effects of the | | | | centuries. Compare these to whatever |
| daily nagging frustrations that tend to add | | | | happened that is making you angry. In ten |
| up over the course of the day. These minor | | | | years from now, is what you are facing right |
| irritations tend to build up and eat away at | | | | now going to make any difference to anybody? |
| you until even a small incident can get you | | | | If not, then just let it go. There are a lot |
| angry. By just setting up a regular exercise | | | | of bigger problems to worry about. |
| routine, you will find that things will not | | | | |
| bother you quite as much and you will be much | | | | You should try to use some or all of these |
| less prone to anger. | | | | anger management techniques and tips and |
| | | | teach them to your children. They will help |
| 4. Keep calm: | | | | you and your family members control your |
| | | | anger and prevent you from damaging your |
| You can control anger if you find a way to | | | | relationships. |